As we’re approaching the end of the year, we’re usually in a slightly frantic state as it’s usually a hectic time for all of us. There are parties to attend, Christmas presents to organise, school or sport club functions to join, food preparation to do, work projects to finish; all to get ready for a well-deserved holiday season. Whether you go away or spend time at home with your loved ones, we all appreciate this break that’s just around the corner.
So, I wanted to take the time to sit down with you and tell you about the absolute power of reflecting and celebrating. With intent, I do this with all my clients as we end our coaching series, but I also practice this in my personal life around big events and especially at New Year’s Eve, which is a very important celebration for me and my husband Frank. We really cherish our tradition and I’ll tell you about it, which might inspire you do the same.
Power of reflecting
It’s our natural tendency to always keep going and once one thing is finished, or very frequently even before that, to focus on the next thing. (Special note here; if you constantly focus way too far in the future, that’s where you get overwhelmed. Take five steps back and focus on what little thing you can do now and you’ll feel much better.) By always thinking ahead, we’re forgetting to think back and reflect back on how far we’ve come, and what we’ve learned, experienced and achieved. Because don’t forget; we’re constantly getting further ahead than where we were and by not appreciating that we can feel a sense of lack in ourselves or losing motivation to continue (if we’re working towards a bigger goal) or even get stuck in a negative mindset as we don’t look at our little or big wins. It’s essential to realise how far we’ve come as it acts as a positive feedback loop that will not only make you feel happy, proud and accomplished but also will provide you momentum to keep moving towards your bigger goal.
Eve’s New Year’s Eve tradition
As the end of the year is approaching I’ll take the opportunity to tell you about our New Year’s Eve tradition. My husband and I started this tradition years ago and it’s a sure way for us to reflect in a fun but also deep and meaningful way. On New Year’s Eve we take an hour or so to sit down together, with a celebratory drink of course, and we ask each other questions. The person that ask the question after the other person answered it also have to answer his or her own question. We ask each other anything across all sorts of topics such as: When were you most proud of yourself this year? When were you most proud of the other? What made you cry? Who inspired you this year? When did you have laugh really loud? What was your favourite meal this year? What was your best buy? These are some of our usual questions but it’s fun to be creative and just see what comes up. We love doing this so much that we never fail to do this at the end of the year. It’s important for us to cherish the moments we’ve spent together, think back about what we achieved and what shaped us this year. Perhaps you want to give it a try this year to and if you do I’d love to hear about your experience!
Time to celebrate
And then it’s time to celebrate! With realising all the big and little wins or all the learning you had or the progress you made; celebrate yourself! Again, by doing something consciously super positive for yourself you’re providing yourself with a positive affirmation that will absolutely keep you motivated going forward. It’s so easy for us to brush off our achievements, but please don’t. You’re worth it and think about how you would celebrate your partner or your friend if they had done what you had done, so treat yourself the same way. Think about what you can do for yourself, even if it’s sitting down with your favourite book or taking a long bath, but celebrate! And you don’t have to wait until the end of the year, now is as good a time as any!